Therapist to present on five love languages
Each person expresses and experiences love in different ways – does the way you express love get the message across?
Derek Ball, a marriage and family therapist, will lead a two-part discussion on The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, Jan. 31 and Feb. 14, 10:45-111:30 a.m. in the Chapel (with Feb. 7 off for the congregational annual meeting). The goal of the session is to help participants understand their own love language and give practical ideas on how to translate love and commitment into the language of others.
He uses the concept of a vending machine to illustrate what happens when two people speak different love languages: It’s like putting Canadian money into an American vending machine. The person is putting something into the machine, but despite expectations of a can of soda or a bag of chips, doesn’t get anything out, Derek said.
“The Five Love Languages works with any relationship where a connection is necessary,” Derek said, including married couples, partners, child-parent, and colleagues.
Derek, who earned a Ph.D. in marriage and family therapy from Purdue University, uses the languages in his work with clients and purchases the book in bulk for his Rock Island-based practice. Each person, he said, has a primary love language. Some people have a secondary love language as well. Learning a different language in order to connect with another can be done, but often takes time, practice, and patience.
Here is a synopsis of The Five Love Languages: